It's ridiculous to think how many stars are in the sky (100 billion galaxies with 100 billion stars in each), how many cells are in your body (75 trillion), how many times your dog will kiss your face (1,000,000 times) if you let him.
As many of you have witnessed before, to see that little human being suddenly appear in the delivery room, all I could think was: “I CAN’T BELIEVE IT!” But then, after the 12th consecutive sleepless night, as my wife and I lay awake shaking our heads at the ungodly hour of 3am, I thought to myself, “I CAN BELIEVE IT!”
At the end of your life, will you be remembered for how many likes you received on your social media posts, or the impact you had on making this world better?
At some point today, your mind must have taken a nosedive down the wormhole. We all have spend time pondering...the worst case scenario!!!!
We had a baby in November. It’s a lot of work, especially for a working mom who is breastfeeding. So let’s just say it’s very easy for me to screw up and confirm my latest reservation on The Sh*t List.
You’ve probably heard the word thousands of times…“Mindfulness.”
Maybe you practice it. Maybe you don’t.
I tend to avoid using fancy words often tossed around in the wellness world. I’m talkin’ words like “mindfulness” or “contentment” or “equanimity” or “enlightened.”
Instead, how about this: LIVE IN THE (freakin) MOMENT!
Listen to the free mindfulness session:
Welcome to Day 3.
I know you’re in a hurry…we all are.
From the second we wake up, we’re on our phones and computers. We’re on Bluetooth conversations while dropping the kids off to school.
We’re racing from appointment to appointment never taking a second for ourselves.
If you’re not working fast enough, it feels like you’ll be swallowed by the competition.
We can’t stand delays, traffic, hold-ups.
We live in a world fixated on speed, efficiency and convenience.
The easy thing to do would be to tell you….SLOW DOWN.
But I’m not going to tell you that right now.
Instead, today, I’m going to share with you three tips that take all of one minute.
I’ve used these quick practices with hundreds of my clients and the results are mind-blowing.
If you have one minute, here are three ways to spend it:
1. Take One Minute for Love
There are 1,440 minutes in a day. Dedicate just one minute to love and watch what happens.
Take one minute to write a loving email.
Take one minute to simply close your eyes and send good vibes to someone.
Take one minute to give someone a long hug.
One by one, they sat in front of the camera, most of them were very annoyed and impatient, as high school kids can be.
Then the girl told each of them the purpose of her project, “I’m taking pictures of things I find beautiful. And that means YOU.”If you watch the reaction on the high school kids’ faces, it’s the most wonderful thing you’ve ever seen. They melt. Their angst dissolves. Their heart explodes.
This didn’t even take one minute. More like 20 seconds. Can you spare 20 seconds for love?
2. Give Something Away
There is so much effort that goes into acquiring what we need. Money, food, clothes, affection, attention. We always think we NEED something.
As Shakti Gawain said, “To think you need something you don’t already have is a form of insanity.”
Enough with the insanity!
Rather than continue down the path of acquiring and consuming, why not do the opposite? Take one minute to lighten the load and give something away.
Or even better…give away your pain, your burdens, your anger.
How are you broken? How are you hurting? What is troubling you? Where is your darkness?
Next time you go there, instead of dwelling, complaining and holding on…
–Perform a selfless act.
My best-selling book Happy is the New Healthy is inspired by my experience helping old people in need.
I worked with a charity that provides resources and comfort for the elderly so they can find peace and love in their twilight years.
This charity’s oldest client was 111 years old when she died. Her name was Katherine. Remember her from Day 1 of the mini-course?
By spending just a few super meaningful hours with Katherine, I learned so much.
For instance, this 111 year old lady’s three tips to health and longevity were s-x, vodka, and spicy food. Yeah! We call that…joie de vivre.
Sharing just a few hours of community service put a whole new spin on how I perceived health and happiness.
Countless times each day, we have the chance to give.
People send you an email telling you about their 5k walk to raise money for charity, or their kids ask you to buy girl scout cookies, or you walk by a person on the street asking for change.
When we are in a dark spot, those requests can be just another distraction, just another thing you have to do.
If happiness is truly a priority, take a moment to make the donation, to buy the girl scout cookies, to find some spare change.
It’s not that your donation will change the person you are giving to.
Rather, it will change YOU!
Compounded over time, these acts of selflessness will make you a different person…a freer person…a happier person.
We all have some kind of lingering issue.
Disappointment with a friend who didn’t invite you to a party, or anger with a co-worker who doesn’t show you respect, or feelings of revenge for that nemesis who spoke badly about you behind your back.
I tend to avoid wholesale self-help but Don Miguel Ruiz’s advice always and forever rings true.
He writes, “Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
Take a moment, inhale deeply, and on the exhale, let that sh-t go!
3. Practice the Most Powerful Move
Having a stressful day? Feeling the pain in your head, neck, back? Constantly grinding?
There’s something you can do now that will give you an instant reset.
Ready for it?
Lift the corners of your mouth up.
Research shows that babies smile over 200 times each day.
Guess how well we do? The numbers are scary.
The average woman smiles 62 times each day, and the average man smiles only eight times each day.
Eight!?! How is that possible?
We go to great lengths to look beautiful, dress nicely, and renovate our homes and bodies…but if you can’t smile, what’s the point?
A dour person with a great physique? Booooring. A frowner with a fancy handbag and designer jeans? Booooooooo.
A long face in a fancy home? Something ain’t right!
Now you might be thinking, I’d love to smile, but I don’t have something to smile about.
As legendary Buddhist monk Thich Naht Hahn said, “Sometimes joy is the source of your smile. But sometimes a smile is the source of your joy.”
That means, even if you are not feeling happy, you can still smile.
In other words, fake it till you make it.
Don’t think too hard.
Just smile more often.
Give something away.
Take just one minute for love.
And hey, this may not make your challenges magically disappear.
But in my 20 years in wellness, I have found this to be true: It’s not that challenging times don’t happen to happy people. Rather, happy people happen to challenging times!
TAKE ACTION and find one minute. Heck, you can even plan it out!
Smile through the stress right now, give something away tomorrow, take just one minute for love the next time the opportunity strikes. Just one minute.
Go for it.
Happiness is a habit and there’s no better time to begin than NOW.
See you tomorrow.
PS — Are the lessons and videos in this mini-course helpful?This is just a small taste of what’s available in 21 Days to Losing the WAIT — my brand-new premium mindfulness series that’s designed to teach you ONE thing:
The ones we love will not be here forever. Don’t wait. Enjoy life NOW!
(It’s not available yet — but if you’re interested, I’ll be opening up enrollment to a small group soon.)
They know the secret to life. Literally.
They are extremely rare, making up .00000085 percent of the global population.
That means of the seven billion people on the planet, there are approximately sixty of these people alive today.
They are fueled by their resilience, humor, and joie de vivre.
They are extremely hard to find, and should you have the good fortune to spend a moment with one…embrace him or her with all your heart. Their wisdom will infect you.
They are scattered across the globe in third floor walk-ups of urban skyscrapers and in hidden, remote, off-the-grid villages.
They are “supercentenarians,” people who are 110 years or older.
Supercentenarians are the Happiness Champions of the World.
When my grandma passed away, I was moved to find a charity in New York City that helps the elderly who lack access to an old age home, money, family, or friends.
This charity’s oldest client, a woman named Katherine, was 111 years old…or rather, 111 years young!
As I followed the social worker up the steps leading to Katherine’s third story Upper East Side apartment, I wondered what it would be like to meet a woman who, upon turning eighty, had another lifetime (thirty-plus years) ahead of her!
Would she be wired differently? Would there be something unique about her attitude, her energy, her eyes, her smile?
I walked in the front door and Katherine excitedly threw her arms in the air as if I were a long lost friend.
While most elderly folks might fear the appearance of a new person in their home, Katherine was inherently trusting.
As the quote goes, “Trust your journey.” That was Katherine’s mantra throughout her winding and weaving life.
Born in South Dakota before it was considered a state, Katherine had a talk radio show, and she moved to New York City because she wanted the big city experience.
She was married five times.
A normal person might quit after the third or fourth marriage, but Katherine kept on truckin’!
While there were definite signs her body was starting to disconnect from her soul (including loose dentures that made it hard to understand her), Katherine had the vibrancy of a young child.
Squirming around, flirting, a glimmer in her eyes, a passion to meet, to share, to taste … she was squeezing every possible ounce out of a life that began way back in 1903.
When the social worker put his hands on her asking, “Do you want to lie down?” she said, “Are you propositioning me?”
Ha! She was still as frisky as a teenager. Seriously, there were sparks flying off this woman, horsepower, an energy that said, “I am greater than my problems and stronger than my circumstances.”
Here are Katherine’s three tips to living a long and healthy life:
This free-spirited, indulgent approach is best referred to as joie de vivre or “joy of life,” one of the most common qualities shared by supercentenarians.
Claude Choules, the last surviving World War I veteran, passed away in 2011 at 110. He went swimming in the ocean every day until he was 100.
The oldest human of all time, Jeanne Calment, died in 1997 at 122 years young. Every week of her life, she ate two pounds of chocolate!
And 115 year old Jerelean Talley bowled until she was 104.
These might be some of the oldest humans ever to walk the earth, but they are the embodiment of a young and increasingly popular definition of wellness.
They show us that real, lasting health is rooted in something deeper than the physical body.
They are living proof that aging gracefully is as much an attitude as it is genetics, diet, or exercise.
To anyone who could use a spark from Katherine’s fire, Jeanne’s joie de vivre, and Jerelean’s vitality, I invite you to take a little journey.
Happiness may seem like a long journey with a hard-to-reach destination.
But what if you could take one minute and suddenly TURN UP THE VOLUME on your level of happiness? Literally just one minute can change how you feel in the most wonderful way.
In the days to come, I will share very concrete, quick, and easy ways to create the foundation for healthy living and a deeply fulfilling life without having to make crazy financial or physical sacrifices.
After 20 years of touring and teaching, I have arrived at three guiding principles for life.
These principles have nothing to do with far-fetched diets or expensive workout regiments.
Rather, these principles inspire a state of mind, and a quality of heart amidst the realities we face every day: work, parenting, paying bills, insomnia, anxiety, stress, fear.
These are my three guiding principles:
1. NOW IS ALWAYS THE BEST MOMENT!
We spend our lives waiting for something to happen that will give us permission to be well and happy.
We are waiting to fall in love, waiting to find a better job, waiting to lose weight, waiting to get our certification, waiting to get a promotion, waiting to redo the kitchen, waiting to move into a new home, waiting, waiting, waiting.
Waiting is a state of mind that never ends until that moment when you realize NOW is the best moment!
That does not have to mean that NOW is the happiest moment, but it is indisputably the moment you are most alive!
You do not want to end up in a hospital bed at the end of your life saying, “I wish, I regret, I should have, I could have.”
Life is not real unless it is happening NOW. That is why this is not a self-help course. This is a bust-loose course!
2. WELLNESS IS A STATE OF MIND
Most of us silently repeat negative thoughts to ourselves all day long.
We say things like, “I don’t have enough” or “I am overweight” or “I’m so stressed.”
It’s no wonder we get stressed and frustrated.
Positive thinking works wonders on the mind.
But how do you get there?
If you are looking to be happier, to fulfill your potential, to gain a competitive advantage, to heal mental health issues, herein lies the power of…
Before I say the word that has been associated with the worst kind of boredom, let me just say “it” is like easing your mind into a hot tub on a cold night.
“It” is like the most loving hands massaging your mind after a stressful day.
“It” is … mindfulness.
I equate the feeling of being mindful with eating gnocchi on a black sand beach while getting a foot rub and watching the sunset.
Mindfulness aids sleep, improves immune response, lowers blood pressure, alleviates stress and anxiety, boosts concentration, enhances pain response, lightens depression…the list goes on.
I know SO many people who say, “I want to be mindful, in the future…But not today. It’s too slow for me.”
Why is something with so many benefits so difficult to embrace?
In day 4 of this mini-course, I’m going to make mindfulness fun, and something that you will actually look forward to.
Then I’ll give you a free guided mindfulness session to help get you started…
3. HAPPY IS THE NEW HEALTHY
Psychologist Ed Diener released a study showing that happiness is based on frequency of positive experience, not intensity of positive experience.
Instead of saving all your joy for that triple chocolate cupcake after work, the science shows that you will be happier spreading happiness throughout your day.
A pumpkin spice latte at breakfast, a walk in the sunshine after lunch, some exotic chocolate mid-afternoon, and a little jazz to wind down before heading home to catch a glimpse of that gorgeous crescent moon.
None of these takes more than a few minutes, yet stacked together they can turn an otherwise ordinary day into one for the ages.
Sounds easy enough.
Yet how often do you put your head on the pillow at night and not remember a single moment from your day?
Do you have enough time to spend with your children, to enjoy nature, to listen to music, to read a book?
Do you feel like your life is slipping through your fingertips?
I’m going to teach you how to cut loose the burdens you place on yourself and feel a whole new level of lightness and joy…in just 5 days!
That means in less than a week, you can learn how to be happier without spending a dime, without doing any crazy “woo woo” chants, and without making any elaborate lifestyle changes.
But there’s one small catch…
I need you to cast aside everything you ‘think’ you know about positivity and happiness.
Leave your biases and doubts at the door!
Let me show you why my fun and simple techniques will tilt your perspective toward the positive and give you a damn good reason to celebrate your life NOW!
Join me tomorrow to discover my secret-move…so powerful you’ll instantly RISE ABOVE stress and anxiety and achieve instant lightness and lasting joy.
Think I’m kidding? Come back tomorrow and find out…
PS – I encourage you to do yourself a favor and really commit to going through this week actively.
How often do we tell ourselves: “Yeah, I know I should pay more attention to being happier. I should definitely do something about it…” and then sit back and let the world happen to us?
Make yourself a promise to take an active role in improving your life.
Take one little step every day by reading the emails I’m sending your way.
See you tomorrow for Day 2…
In all of two minutes, you will simulate the feeling of intense stress when your kids are yelling while you’re stuck in traffic, or your boss is going crazy!
And then, magically, you will RISE ABOVE the stress with grace and a deep sense of joy.
All of that in two minutes. Ready?